EQ refers to a person’s level of emotional control and stability.
In the business world, a higher EQ means a better performing staff.
But it doesn’t necessarily save you from being unpopular with some people still.
I’ve come to realize long time ago that you cannot be liked by all.
You could get popular, which only means you could be liked by most.
And seriously, in an office setting, you only need to be liked by the significant few.
It’s all about business. So it only needs to be strategic.
Afterall, we are human beings and it leaves a bad taste if you can’t be liked by all on the team.
But more importantly, you can’t hate people on your team.
In short, personal feelings are like a double-edge sword.
I miss the days when I can just be honest to myself.
That what I feel is more important than anything else.
Honestly, who likes an immatured, biased, weak, stubborn, pretentious and rude little nobody?
Or an untalented, uninspired, lack of persistence (or even lazy) and narrow-minded staff on a creative team?
How about irresponsible, selfish, ignorant and stupid peer on the media team?
Let me see…did I miss anybody important on my not-worth-much-people list?
Not that if you are in a higher power position you could be any of the above.
But it makes these defects a lot more beareable to me.
So I guess it’s my unfortune that I have to continue to suffer them.
Again, for my best interest in the business world, I can only say…
"I don’t think they are the best people on the team."
"They may be nice people in person but I don’t enjoy working with them."
Instead of honesty…
"I can’t bear their existence in my face."
You see, it’s very dangerous to admit that you don’t like or despise your coworkers.
It’s like a pandora’s box –
you don’t know what kind of monsters you let out if you just peek into the box.
So in order to be able to maintain my EQ, personal feelings are cast aside.
I need to find ways to make things work with these so-called coworkers.
And if they can function somehow, I will continue to work with them with a smile.
Or I can strategically remove them if an opportunity arises.
That’s all I can do.